Need Advice from the Experienced Folks on WAW

[GH3421]

Soleil- The PA is definitely over, it was a one time event. It happened while we were in NY. Backstory is in the thread I posted in the beginning of this message. EAs are still ongoing as far as I can tell but I still have concerns.

We went to two MC sessions. First one was prior to me confronting the PA and was a waste of time. Second one was two weeks ago. I brought up the A and she stated that she wanted to leave me and see other people; however, she wants me to move out because it "will be easier". I refused. The MC got her to reluctantly agree to stay for two more weeks. The rest is summarized in the top post.

Pinhead - She refuses to give me access to her computer, Facebook account, and phone because in her mind she's yet to commit to staying; therefore in her mind, it's an invasion of her privacy. I have an IT background and found out about the A by breaking into her email and logging web access. After the confrontation, all I ended up doing was driving her more underground with her methods. I told her if she stays we will need to come up with a way that satisfies both of us that nothing outside of the M is occurring.

In the beginning of last week when we talked, I tried to explain where I was coming from due to my own issues. I no longer do that and try to follow your advice. I usually say when she asks me about a behavior from the past "I don't have an answer for you right now, I need to think about that some more."

Doodi - I hear you and I agree to in some respects. What I'm trying to do now is buy some time. I'm trying to defuse her anger so she can get to the point where an R is possible. We have another MC session this Friday so perhaps he will have some suggestions as how to approach these discussions in a more productive fashion. I'll admit that some of what she is saying is hard to hear and I want to respond but I bite my tongue.