Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks friends! CG that was a great response thank you!

So STBXW called me at 7:30AM...I didn't answer at first but called back half hour later she was in almost a panic 'Hey, I was wondering if I could have some money from one those accounts' - I guess she looked through all the discovery docs unlike me so she knows there are multiple accounts and the money in them (I managed all the finances, she never had any interest in them). Anyway I didn't want to say yes so I said "Hmm...when do you need it?" She said "soon...I have to move out and I need to come up with a deposit for first and last month" I said "why the big rush?" she said "because...BECAUSE!!...[owner] has to move back in because her boyfriend lost his house so they have to come live here" I said "well how much money do you need?" she said "$3k" I said "it's fine but I need to check with my lawyer first" she said "can you check soon? we can document what I'm taking and send it to the lawyers". I said "I'll see what I can do"

Ugh!! it never stops! So I have a few options here:

1. give her the $3k out of my checking (most of those cash accounts are interest earning savings accounts and takes a few days to transfer money) and document it with the lawyers. Showing good faith.

2. use this as an opportunity to negotiate something else such as who gets to claim DD as a dependant etc

3. get the lawyers involved and start splitting up the assets now as a whole.