Telling Your WAS You Won't Be Friends

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I don't see how you've said anything. You've redefined terms.

And there's nothing codependent about enforcing your own boundaries (quite the opposite, in fact). It's codependent not to have boundaries, try to change others, or enable dependent behavior.

I think that if you don't want somebody bugging you all of the time trying to be your buddy if they're not interested in being married to you and they ask if you can be "friends", then just telling them that is--above all--being honest.

I have no problem with having had to do this myself at one point. It was the truth. If we were divorcing, then it made no sense to be friends, so when that was asked, that's what I said. Not going to happen, sorry.

It's assertive.

Know your personal boundaries, know your core principles and stick to them.

That's my motto.

And speaking from a lot of dating experience, keeping exes around while you try to have new relationships is a recipe for disaster, and classy, confident women won't tollerate it.