Things are not getting better folks and its as if she is biding her time. No intimacy for over a year is one thing but the beginning signs of continual disrespect and signs, snappiness, arguing, and signs that she loathes my presence at times is well, a little too much to take for someone as accomodating as myself.
It's easy to understand how you would be feeling there is no hope w/ the way you describe it above.