I compare your sitch with mine since we both do not have children and there was a time when you two had NC. the difference is that your W filed pretty quickly when she left so that was probably out of shear emotion.
My W took 10 weeks to bring it up then ask me twice if I was okay with this. I don't know why she waited and speculation is pure mind reading at this point and probably doesn't matter. The fact is your W delayed the D a couple of times and is now rediscovering you and the R. She could have easily D'd and you two would have gone on your seperate ways. Therefore, I want time and not pull the lever so quickly.
My W is quite a few years younger than me and this is her first life changing decision that she has had to make on her own. Sure she wanted to marry me, but I am the one who made the arrangements. She is asking me for guidance just as she always has, but this time it is to D me...ironic. I think it will be an eye opening experience if she get served papers so I might just pull the lever on Thursday.
