W: When you lost your job last year we had a conversation and the conclusion that we both agreed to was I would be maxing out my FSA. It violates the federal and state tax laws for two people to claim the same dependant despite the filing status. Please adjust your plan and withholding accordingly.
Yep. that sounds good. Leave all emotion out of it. Your stbx does not seem to listen to anything other than what she wants, when she wants it. Tell her the facts only and leave any personal stuff out of it, IR.
