WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

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read your post to MP. Do you think I should tell my W that I don't want a D and that I am willing to work on the M? How could I do that w/o appearing that I am begging or weak.

If you wanted a divorce, you would have already filed for a divorce. I think she gets that.

The question is, do you file, do you tell her to file, or do you suggest mediation, right?

From a purely monetary point if view, whoever files--if it is a simple, uncontested divorce--spends the most money.

I figure around 1500 to file, and around 800 if you aren't the one filing if it's simple.

If there are kids involved, then more $$$.

My understanding--and I could be wrong--about mediation is that it is something you do to work out things like property division and custody issues so that you can draft a dissolution agreement more easily that you both can agree on.

I didn't have to do mediation because we worked everything out ahead of filing, so it was a matter of simply agreeing that I keep what is mine, she keeps what is hers, and we aren't responsible for each others' debts or attorney fees.

My W was antsy, so she filed first, and that saved me some money. Looking back, I don't think that's terribly important (saving 700 bucks).