I read your post to MP. Do you think I should tell my W that I don't want a D and that I am willing to work on the M? How could I do that w/o appearing that I am begging or weak.
I see so much about the dynamic of the confident male, but not on how to demonstrate this w/o appearing that you are pursuing your W. I really feel that this whole DB and D is a cyclone of mind manipulation.
The fear that I have and I can see this as the root cause for a lot of D is that both parties have a protective wall around themselves and they truly fear communicating true feelings to the other due to the fear of rejection or appearing to your spouse as the pursuer. I would like nothing more than to tell my W how I truly feel, but I keep reading that she is not ready to hear that and that is pursuing behavior.
