INTERESTED IN MLC FOR LBS

[ericmsant2]

Bobby

I broke off contact with my wifes family because I feel my wife's sister was the one who encouraged my wife to move out.

Bobby I "lived" with this train of thought for a long time. I blamed everyone for MY W actions. It is wrong. Your W, sick or not, MLC or not, is entitled to make her own choices. Even if you SIL suggested it...I bet she did not put a gun to your W head.

Another point I want to make is this - Bobby - this may be an excuse for YOU. YOu see, we often look at our spouses or in this case our spouse "in-laws" and blame them for the breakdown of the M. In one way we are correct; however, we can continue to look and blame OR we can look internally and start to deal with the ROLE that we played in the breakdown. A funny thing happens when you do this...you start to forgive. You start to really understand and you start to make TRUE changes IN YOU. Then again...you can keep blaming everyone else.

I suspect my wife is now angry with her sister for encouraging this move.

Hey Bobby - if you happen to have a tool that tells you what is in your wife head or how she is feeling can you throw it my way? Seriously, even if you wife is angry...guess what she will need to learn that for every action is a ......you get my point I hope.

Her family knew Virginia has been troubled for a good while and never encouraged her to get IC. They did not want to get involved but now they want to and I dont see how they can help now that she is out of the house.

Bobby - do you or they think that either of you can fix your W? Have you read the resources that our friend Cadet sent your way. Do you know what to expect when you tell YOUR W that SHE IS WRONG and NEEDS HELP. I'll tell ya...she is going to get pissed off. Bobby she is a grown woman - she can and will make choices that she wants to make. Guess what, you will not nor need to be consulted. Get used to it. Oh...does this change anything that YOU are doing for YOU?

I am very angry at her family because when you know your sister or child is hurting you step up to the plate and not turn your back

Hplly chit...anger from YOU bobby. WOW - I am happy to see it finally. So everyone need to come to your W rescue now - did you come to her rescue? Here is another question....did you let her rescue YOU...did you let her change YOU...when she would complain about things that you were or were not doing? Did you listen to her? Funny - I bet ya didn't and NOW you want HER to listen to everyone. Wanna know why? Cause YOU WANT HER TO CHANGE ON YOUR SCHEDULE. Sorry buddy it does not work that way.

You can better Bobby - stop f*cking around and get to work. Get to looking at YOU.

God Bless,
Eric