I've seen this said several times and it's something I would like to examine. I'm not being critical of the statement, I just want to understand it better to determine if it's something with which I can agree.
If you love someone, do you give them what they want? Certainly, you would not give your children what they want, but they're not adults and don't necessarily know what's good for them. Your spouse is an adult, but if a Wayward, WAS, or in an MLC, do they necessarily know what's good for them?
In this context, what they want is a divorce. As a practical matter, there are not that many jurisdictions left where a spouse needs the other spouse's cooperation to get one, so it's not as if we can deny them one. However, should we go to the point of leading them through the divorce and actually hasten the process? If I remember correctly, MWD would tell you to stall, I think.
So, do we give them what they want just because we love them?
Can we believe them when they say what they want, even if they haven't filed themselves?
Even if they really want it, should we facilitate it?
Or, should we just let them know we are good with it, but not move it along any faster than it would otherwise go?
