My DB coach recommended I say casually if he asks to be there or when can he meet the baby : "I'll be busy that day (day of birth), so why don't you come and meet the baby the day after when we're ready and more settled? I'll have someone text you".
I DIDN'T say this to my WH b/c I was still trying to get him to come back to me... but I should have. It would have shown more self respect.
Having him there would only bring his mess into your life...and the birth is a special moment... don't let him ruin that too.
Just what I think.
Me 36; H 40 baby born in May M:13, T:15 Bomb (OW): Dec 09 began DBing: Feb WH overseas with OW old: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2027369#Post2027369
