Your doing well my friend. By the way are you on the alt?
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
My wife walked into the house stressed about exams tonight. I picked up my daughter and made dinner for her and sent a plate with my daughter to my wife. She was blaming me for her having moved out and having a hard life now. Well I had nothing to do with her decision and now it is overwhelming to her plus she has to worry about bills. I remain silent and continue on the journey. My alt is FB. Bobby O
It is par for the course that the MLCer will blame the LBS for everything, even the very choices they made and thought would solve their problems.
You're doing fine by keeping silent and hopefully someday your W will start to examine her issues and realize that you are not responsible for either her happiness or unhappiness. It all comes from within.
I had forgotten to mention that my wife had made a comment about not having child support or money to live on. She did get all the equity and I absorbed all the debt when we refinanced the house including the car payment, insurance etc. In any case, I told my wife that there was money in her account to use and I would add more to it when I get paid on Friday. I have not been served divorce papers yet and wonder if she will hold off for awhile since she has financial support. I did this against my lawyers advice. My thinking was she may come around in due time and if not papers could always be served later. The reason I am up now is the phone had rang at 230 am and it was my wife looking for my middle daughter. She is here at my house asleep. My wife did not say anything else other than she needed to leave early and needed Jackie to return her car by 630 am. I am going fishing with my son on Friday and to a football game on Saturday. I just plan to stay busy and see where this road goes. Bobby O
Does anything that she do change what YOU need to do for yourself?
OR
Are you just going to sit and wait for her to come to her senses?
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I told my wife that there was money in her account to use and I would add more to it when I get paid on Friday. I have not been served divorce papers yet and wonder if she will hold off for awhile since she has financial support. I did this against my lawyers advice.
Why give her money at this point? Please don't expect anything in return.
Last night I received a call to say that my wife was picking our daughter up from dance. My wife said she again needed to use the computer. When they arrived at my house I gave Katie her dinner and did tell my wife she was welcomed to eat if she wanted. She declined and went upstairs. She then went downstairs and sat on the couch and put her head down. She looked so overwhelmed and it looked like she was going to cry. I did not say anything to her. She then told Katie they had to go and left without saying goodbye. Katie did say goodbye. Our son who just came back from Iraq invited me for lunch today. He is angry with his mother as she has not contacted him and he does not know why. I have broken off contact with my wifes father and youngest sister. They call and leave messages but I do not return the calls. I spoke to my lawyer again yesterday and he thinks my wife has not filed because I would have been served by now. Today, I will see friends and my son. Bobby O
