How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

[pearlharbr]

Not really a how to, but this is a great article on why you need to develop detachment.

I agree with kara (Hi kara! Miss you!) about GAL, immersing yourself in your own pursuits and letting go.

I really let go when I realized that I didn't want to be with the person BF had become; if I just met him then I wouldn't give him the time of day. I did not want to spend the rest of my life with someone who would treat his partner so shabbily. I deserve better than that and I decided that I would find someone who treated me with the respect I deserved.

Everyone wants the person their spouse used to be, but that person is gone. Even if you end up reconciling neither one of you will ever be the same person again. So decide what you want your life to look like starting now. Start doing things to make that life a reality. That should take up a lot of time and energy!