Really good points! I'm thinking that my H sometimes pushes my buttons to test me, maybe even subconsciously. I think so because I find that I do that myself. I would never actually deliberately test him, but I catch myself doing it sometimes.
Also, I always thought of myself as in control of my emotions because I would never get mad during a fight and retaliate. But while I am able to keep my anger in check, other emotions, like sadness and hurt run rampart. Even when I think of confrontations with other people, when someone is being unreasonable (in my opinion) with me, I feel upset and easily get to the point where I'm on the verge of tears. Not good and definitely not professional.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
