I just now got a call from STBXW. Apparently, D8 has a couple of zeros in her file and an F. I have to admit I haven't been checking it every day in the hour that I have them. She's supposed to be doing the homework with the afterschool sitter and STBXW. Apparently, that's not happening.
Of course, rather than say, "I haven't been checking her folder and we need to do a better job," STBXW is going to demand a meeting with the teacher because she's upset with the lack of communication.
Sigh. D8 is in third grade and now has homework. It's our job as parents to stay on top of her. Instead, it sounds as if STBXW is going to go on one of her tirades. Of course, I can't avoid this meeting, but I'll keep my mouth shut. I kept it shut on the phone. Just listening. She doesn't need to know what I'm thinking.
This is where you need to be more firm and let your STBXW know that this is something that needs to be worked on together as parents. Dont have yourself walk on egg shells or "act as if". You need to let her know that she cant deflect the blame to the teacher or the babysitter.
You both need to work out consequences for your daughters.
