Just passing through to say "hi". It has been a really long day and I am mentally drained, so not much to add. I think your conversation with your H where you set him straight was actually good.
There was a thread somewhere on here about detaching. I think the best way to do it is to GAL, immerse yourself in your own pursuits, spend time with family and friends, do the things YOU enjoy. As you rediscover yourself, I think it becomes natural to detach and focus less on your M. At least that's what has worked in my case. I also spend a lot of time exercising or at the gym and that has worked wonders for me. Working out requires concentration and living in the moment.
Letting go and letting God also works for me. I acknowledge that I can't control anyone or a particular outcome. I resist placing all my energies on the expectation of a desired outcome and a desired deadline. I realize that I can choose to be happy where I am because there are many things to be thankful for. I refuse to spend another day depressed and in a funk.
I hope that your H gets his act together with respect to his relationship with his children. That is always the most infuriating part to read about.
