...I invited her to councelling, did 5 months by myself. It was helpful.
However I never could get her to be interested in her relationship with me. It seems she's just gotten used to treating my badly, and there is no reason to change it.
....Anyway, since "I'm single", and I know it will truly be better to be fully single than with a wife who doesn't want you. I'm making new friends, and it has helped tremendously.
Oh... All my kids ( even the ones with her ) want me to have a "girlfriend" who treats me well.
Anyway, without a forum like this one, i would have been possibly stuck for the rest of my life in a terrible emotional place.
I know that one thing that surprised me was a couple of times when my wife treated me badly in front of our children they gentlly took her to task once and said she should really be better to me. It is surprising what kids know and how they really want what is best for us (even if they rebel from us and our parental authority).
I wish you happiness. It sounds like you tried, but for some reason your wife didn't want to change.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
