This is the MLC=confusion part that you have to learn to deal with. That's why the essential element is that you learn to detach. Detachment doesn't mean you stop loving, it means that you can live your life without his actions affecting you. Don't try to make sense of what he says. It doesn't make sense. You can't understand crazy. Trying will only make YOU crazy.
Do not respond with emotion. Be calm, and let him know what actions you will take to ensure that the kids will remain in contact with him. Do not address any of his other comments. Since the kids are young, it will fall on you to keep that contact open. No it's not fair. Get used to it. I'm very sorry you are here with us but this is a great group of people who will help any way they can.
"Love me when I least deserve it, for that is when I need it the most"
M18 Me39,H42 D16 Bomb 1/10 Moved out 3/10 OW 6/10 H wants to R,OW gone 11/10 H moves back 5/11 H wants to wear rings again 9/11
