I will say from my experience that my own situation would be better if my D13 was on speaking terms with my W.
My wife views her broken relationship with our D13 a major roadblock to the possibility of reconciliation. If I had to do things over I would definitely try to keep the kids more neutral.
If there is to be a road back for the WAS/MLC it is easier for them to travel that path if it is not so bumpy.
Now this is an interesting take on your D13. Not sure I agree. Your D13 has better boundaries than you do. That we know as a fact.
I don't think that your reconcilation has anything to do with their relationship.
My wife and D24 have always had a rocky relationship. Love/hate I would say but although my wife has blamed me, I really think I have nothing to do with it.
MHL you end up in a bad spot if you have to choose between wife and D13.
I am not sure you could keep your D13 neutral if you tried.
