Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[mishka422]

Dagny...just a quick piece of advice...take it or leave it.

I understand that a D is not what you want. If he wants it so badly then let him file. If you really want to file yourself then for heavens sake.....don't inform him of what research you have done, money he will be paying, NOTHING! That is for the L's and judge to inform him. If he hears it from you then YOU are the bad guy. YOU are only out to get him. YOU ARE A RAGING B!TCH. Trust me....he's thinking it! It doesn't matter to him that he brought it on himself by lying, cheating, continuing to commit adultery....nope....now it's all about what YOU are doing to HIM. You just put all that out there for him to stew over.

So......

1)Continue to gather information in order to protect yourself and your kids.

2)ABSOLUTELY do not share any of your plans with him. (Seriously, D is war and you wouldn't share your battle plan with your enemy would you?)

3)Refrain from speaking to him at all unless one of the kids is bleeding from the ears. GO DARK.

He needs to face his own consequences. He's going to be fuming for a long time over your revelations to him. Don't stoke the fire.