Piecing I Hope

[loweinsd51]

STBXWW in EA since January...exposed to OMW, OM family & friends, WW friends and family. Several tense moments culminating in the POSOM calling the police on me for "threatening Him" by telling him to stop talking to my wife (Twilight Zone anyone?). I digress...STBXWW is in an apt and I'm with staying with family...DD's split time at both locations.

I'm GALing, Holding onto My N.U.T.S., No More Mr. Nice Guy, setting boundaries, etc.

FWW and I were about to enter mediation...then last week the following happened:

Just as the script reads, STBXWW discovered that POSOM is a psycho that was using her...keep in mind this was an EA only. He started threatening her saying he would make her life miserable, that he knows people and could get me fired, etc. She has ended contact with him...deleted him from her contacts.

STBXWW and I had a wonderful weekend both with and without our DD's. Spent the night together and ended up ML...she initiated while I was rubbing her back.

We had a nice discussion earlier that evening and I told her to just let it all out. I won't go into the details of what happened between STBXWW and POSOM but STBXWW reluctantly did something out of the kindness of her heart. I just kept telling her "I understand your feelings, they're yours and I'm not going to try to talk you out of them".

This was the first time since this all went down that STBXWW has shown genuine remorse. She told me that I was right about POSOM.

The only thing I could do was to just hold her, comfort her, keep her safe, and just let her cry. She said she was afraid that I would hate her and asked a few times why I didn't hate her and why I wasn't angry with her. She said she was scared of everything and that she is extremely fragile.

STBXWW said she misses my back rubs and that I give the best back rubs.

We agreed to piece together the marriage.