Perhaps I'm a bit odd, but I don't have friends that betray me. I don't have friends that lie to me. And I certainly don't have friends that are actively trying to break up my kid's family. I've read too much research that documents the effects of divorce on children to sit and play nice with someone that is compromising my kid's furture.
I can be civil even to people I despise. It takes some work though.
Not odd at all. True friends don't do any of that. Friends stand by their friends, support them in crisis. some even give their lives for their friends.
The last thing WAS is, is a friend. We are willing to take back their freindship if they reconcile with us until then it's just being friendly. There is a huge difference and drawing that line is a part of letting go. That is one of the reasons why letting go is so hard, we still view them as friends despite what they have done.
