"I miss our family life. They deserved better than this. We deserved better than this. Told ya you didn't want to hear it." He says, really iritated, "who said I didn't want to hear it". Then he says "gotta go, rugrat is in the van".
I am not so sure that a truth dart every once in a while is so bad.
You pick yourself up dust yourself off and start DB'ing again.
I totally agree with Lance on this. Truth dart absolutely. I am sorry you are feeling down about this. I think looking back you will see that this is part of this BS. I tend to have moments with my wife like this and then realize sometime later that they have to be reminded where you stand. I think I will have to keep reminding my W through instances like that so they don't loose track of what is important for their family. They are not going to get enough of that info from outsiders now will they?
Know what I see P? This is just my opinion. I see that he doesn't want to face his SH@@ and YOU won't make me either nanya nanya nanya.
So.... he lives life miserable and full of guilt until he does. Thank God you don't have to live with the guilt. I know you know all of this anyway but this is how I am looking at it. If you tell me I am full of it, that's ok too.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
and then realize sometime later that they have to be reminded where you stand.
That's just it ... he and I both were convinced I was done standing ... I'm guessing he didn't like this because now he (and obviously me too) is questioning if that has changed.
And honestly I'm not comfortable with it either ... makes me all ... f'ed up. I felt like I didn't know up from down and black from white today.... and then
Just had a 3 hr lunch with one of my besties ... and she gave me some great advice ... she said "BE STILL". LOL ... really, I laughed out loud ...
How many times have I given that same advice? More than I can count I'm sure. Who said I have to decide anything ... who said that if I do I can't change my mind ... who says I can't change it back ... who says anything ... this is my life, only I can live it. And sometimes living means being still. Going quiet.
So Mach, if you're out there ... I'm stealing your advice from Missher's thread ... ssshhhhhhh .....
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
