Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks guys, here's my draft response let me know what you guys think:

"I've been maxing out my FSA since you lost your job over a year ago and I remember telling you about it very clearly. Basically you can't claim the benefits twice for the same dependant regardless of the filing status. Had you let me know when you decided to sign up for your benefits I could've told you how this works. This is exactly how this whole conversation started i.e. you don't communicate to me things that have a direct affect on DD and me. Now you'll lose the money in your dependant care fsa account."