Here's a story...of a very sad lady

[KellBell0820]

Dagny, I understand where you're coming from, especially with the turmoil it causes the kids. My D has started asking for her daddy more and more lately, it hasn't turned into a sad "I want daddy to come home" type of thing yet . . but I'm already dreading the day it does. Maybe at this point it would be better to just work on maintaining a civil, cordial relationship for the kids. Rather than think of it as trying to bust this divorce and rebuild a R with your H, maybe thinking of it as "this R is definitely over, right now the only R we need to concentrate on is the one we will have for the kids". See if things follow from there? I'm not cut out for fights either, I'm extremely grateful that since I exposed H's affair he's quit fighting with me to sign the D papers he filed. Although that may be a bad sign (not sure) it's at least given me the chance to recuperate.