We had a pre-nup and also set-up seperate bank accounts before we were married and never changed them. The money that she has in her account was earned by her and used to pay-off school loans and car. I was okay with that because I was the major bread winner, she was in school with the goal to be debt free when she graduated....I know door mat.
Coach, why should I take charge in going for a D? I thought about it many times, but didn't want to flip that switch. I'm fumbling in the dark w/o communication, phone number, address all of the things that everyone else on this site has to effectively communicate with their spouses.
My path is to bust this D, but how? Do I email my W and tell her that I will file this Thursday. Do I tell her that I agree with the D, but I am not ready to discuss the D, which would show weakness on my part. I feel handcuffed and I am frustrated with platatudes. I need a 2x4 and then some smacked across my head. I need clear advice concise advice on how to lead.
Of course my W is leading...she wants out. I attempted to show 180 and confidence in agreeing with her and told her that I deserved to be with someone who wants to be with me. I could have hired a PI to find her then grebbed her by her hair and drag back to my cave like a cave man, but we have laws against that....and I wouldn't do that anyway.
