1.YOU get to do the work first. 2.YOU get to do the work knowing what you know about time/MLC.(This is BIG because MLC'ers haven't got a clue) 3.YOU get to do this all without the guilt/mess/pain (I know as LBS we have unbelievable pain too). 4.YOU are already doing some of the work by being here and getting a little of the outline of all of this. 5.IF you invest yourself, books, actions, reading here on this board, GALing, how can you not become more attractive to your W IF she comes back? BUT, you are not doing it for her, you are doing it for yourself. Whether it is a relationship with your W or somebody else. YOU WILL WIN. Walk in the park? NOPE.
Reading your post, I thought the same way you did. Where the HE!! is the instruction book on this. I still get that feeling from time to time. Maybe everyday. You have all the tools here. You get to be a 1 percenter out there with all the men who don't have a clue. You found yourself here on this board. That puts you in a class of your own right there. There are so many women out there who wished their husbands would fight for their marriage. YOU get to be that husband if YOU make it happen.
The more I look at this stuff, the more I see just a little more. None of us signed up for this. Very few would. You got drafted SIR!
I like the Almanac thing, hit a nerve with me. The more you post stuff like that the more others can relate to what is in your head.
I thought I could just sit back and let this thing run it's course. She will figure it out eventually. DA..MN!! Can't do that. Have to learn some life lessons? Thought I knew it all. Found I have no clue.
Again, from the disclaimer on the top, this is all my opinion. Somehow, you have found yourself in the same situation that I am in. Roughly the same time frame by DAYS!! Wife saying the same stuff, doing the same goofy things. Everyone here gets to learn from each other and I have got lots to learn. Thank God I have some time. I can't digest this in a one week course. This is going to be life lessons with labs (Actions/experiences in your life).
I still, like you, want her to finish this up this week/month.
