Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[Lucky11too]

Yes, it definitely does sound like where you were at. It's weird how my sitch is following your sitch but just a few months behind. I know H is content with where he is at b/c it's cake-eating. He gets him family but still gets his complete freedom and no responsibility. It's been working for me b/c it's all been part of my plan (getting to various steps - therapy/surgery/new place), but now that these goals have been reached, I'm ready for some closure. I know he wants his family (and most of the time I believe he wants me too), but I just don't know if it's worth the sacrfice to him. That's really what it's going to come down too - priorities! Unfortunately, I think as much as he loves us, i don't think he's willing to sacrifice "his new life" for us, but I hope he proves me wrong.

Updates with H, H cancelled our bbq plans for Sunday b/c he just wasn't feeling good. I understand, but on the other hand, c'mon, just come over and see your W and S. I don't get a break from being a mom or wife when I'm tired. It was fine though. I ended up making zuccini bread instead during S's nap. I love to bake, but rarely get a chance to, so that was fun (plus now I get to eat yummy bread! =D) Instead he suggested that we meet up for lunch on Monday. I was still in my annoyed mood tho and turned him down. He ended up going shopping on Monday and got S some things. He got him this whole Cars decoration set for his new Cars room I did, so that was very thoughtful. He also got him some clothes. He talked to me about meeting up maybe Weds or Thurs night (or both). He's working pretty much constantly right now between the old place and the new place, but at least he's trying to fit us in. He also suggested me and S come over to the new place on Thurs to have dinner with him. That's a good sign if he wants me to come to his new place (ie, sharing a part of his life with him unlike before when he kept me out of everything). I'm definitely glad that he's leaving the old place tho. There are just so many bad feelings associated with it and everyone knew about us (and of course I was the evil witch there that left poor H and took him family away....blah blah blah).

So definitely some good things going on but definitely have to be cauiously optipmistic too. H is still way too comfortable in the current sitch...