Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ImprovedRomeo]

No we haven't discussed any of this yet. We just have a basic separation agreement in place which was done so she could get her support payments and to get DD's schedule hashed out.

It seems to me regardless of how we file for the taxes only one person gets these benefits, you can't use the same dependant and get the benefits twice. It has to do with the custodian parent which IRS defines as someone that keeps the child more than the other parent- which is difficult isn't easy to determine in a 50/50 custody scenario. At least that's how I understand it.