Is making your spouse aware that you will not be friends with them after the D emotional blackmail that will backfire o
It's reality. If they are under the impression that you will be their friend, then you need to set the record straight.
In the future, would your future wife invite your former spouse over for a dinner party thrown for your "friends"? Nope. The fact is that if you divorce and move on, you WON'T be friends.
That's just being real.
It's not something you say to elicit any response, to force them to deal with guilt or any such thing. It's the doggone truth.
Trust me. If you move on and re-marry, unless you want another divorce, you aren't going to be friends with a former spouse.
This all goes back to setting good, healthy personal boundaries.
