Hey Ris you have a similar sitch to mine. my H and I have been doing really well with the positive interactions...we've only had two low-key arguments in a month now...!!! sometimes I know he is testing me, trying to push my buttons...I'm sure it's the same with you. Awareness is key. If you can slow down when you talk and really look at the interaction objectively, you can begin to pinpoint these instances. If you feel yourself getting emotional, end the conversation. Also, humour never hurt anyone! Early in our relationship, H and I would always crack jokes and tease each other. We are doing a lot of that now. When we were skyping a few days ago, I noticed he was wearing his wedding ring on his right hand, even though I told him I wanted him to wear it on his left if we were working on things. Instead of getting mad, I just said..."so, I guess you don't feel like being married today?" in a joking tone. his response: "yeah, I switch it back and forth depending on how pissed I am at you." we both had a good laugh, and then he told me he was wearing it on his right hand cause his left ring finger was swollen...who knows if that was the truth, but if I was overly sensitive about the situation it could have degenerated into a fight, instead we had a laugh and I came off as a fun, non-controlling spouse (at least I think I did)
