You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[ClingingToHope]

Guys, we have separate lives now. My job is to make sure that D8 and D11 get the stuff they need to get done on my nights and STBXW needs to make sure they get the stuff done on her nights.

The file in D8's folder hopefully is a wakeup call to STBXW. If it continues or gets worse then I'll have to consider doing something. But I do not want a relationship where every time something goes wrong I chime in.

Especially in our relationship. Remember part of the reason we are getting divorced is that I did TOO MUCH for STBXW. She wanted control of her life.

I am not checking out of my daughters' lives. I'm purposefully respecting some boundaries.