Thanks! I actually feel okay about the sitch. At least I have clarity. I really don't think that DB is an option here. My W waited until the smoke cleared before pulling the trigger. So she has thought about this for a while. I get the feeling that she is worried about how I would react since she asked twice if it was okay for her to begin legal action.
I will proceed with dignity and probably a little Cary Grant as TH would say. I meet with a L on Thursday. If it is as cut and dry as I think it will be I would like to work with a Mediator, but if I can recoup some $$ then I may dig in a little. My W has a low threshhold when it comes to $$.