Stbx Mrs. T and I have found a C for our kids - someone they can talk to about all of the divorce related stress in their lives. Yesterday we had to meet (the two of us) with the C as an intro.
Holy Distortions Batman!
It's true to her pattern and her character, but she has completely rewritten our past to suit her own view of herself.
It's all my fault.
The affairs never happened (those relationships she had and continues to have with other men aren't "Affairs").
The defining stress in the kids life is the single time I got angry 12 months ago.
The daily anger she exhibits is all because of me.
The frequent times she blows up at the kids are all becaue of the stress I put her under.
The fact that she ignores the boys all day when they are with her (on the phone with her friends and boyfriends) is because she doesn't have enough support.
The expense that we have from the lawyers, etc, is all my fault because I was the one who filed
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Aaaahhhhrghhh!! Get me out of this fun house!
I keep the time I am around her to an absolute minimum and this helps keep me sane, but occasionally we have to interract for the D or the kids. Whenever we do I feel like I am in a maze of mirrors where the mirrors distorts my own reflection back in all sorts of bizarre and disturbing ways.
I just want out of here.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.