Stbx Mrs. T and I have found a C for our kids - someone they can talk to about all of the divorce related stress in their lives. Yesterday we had to meet (the two of us) with the C as an intro.

Holy Distortions Batman!

It's true to her pattern and her character, but she has completely rewritten our past to suit her own view of herself.
  • It's all my fault.
  • The affairs never happened (those relationships she had and continues to have with other men aren't "Affairs").
  • The defining stress in the kids life is the single time I got angry 12 months ago.
  • The daily anger she exhibits is all because of me.
  • The frequent times she blows up at the kids are all becaue of the stress I put her under.
  • The fact that she ignores the boys all day when they are with her (on the phone with her friends and boyfriends) is because she doesn't have enough support.
  • The expense that we have from the lawyers, etc, is all my fault because I was the one who filed
  • ...


Aaaahhhhrghhh!! Get me out of this fun house!

I keep the time I am around her to an absolute minimum and this helps keep me sane, but occasionally we have to interract for the D or the kids. Whenever we do I feel like I am in a maze of mirrors where the mirrors distorts my own reflection back in all sorts of bizarre and disturbing ways.

I just want out of here.


Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2
M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08
Walking away from a bad situation.

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