I'm actually a success story, but I think it has a lot to do with when I started to DB, my actual sitch, and the intensity with which I DB'd. I was here about 3 weeks after the bomb, read DB, and worked it to the letter. It also helped that my H was in a ONE sided EA (she wasn't interested in him, but there's no way she didn't realize he had feelings for her...she liked the attention, ho that she is) and we were in counseling weekly from right after the bomb.
It took us from May to the beginning of September to reconcile, and probably another 3 years to really get past that summer and have a good M. We were also in counseling for 2 years and in IC of our own at that time.
I think I had a lot of things working for me, and I count myself lucky every day. Three of my buddies from that time (Rob, Liz, and Jen_Jam) also reconciled.
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Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
