The solutions are quite predictable. TIME! That is the real solution. Patience and lots of time!
I wish patience and time alone would heal my marriage, but that's not guaranteed. I've read in numerous forums, articles, etc... that the majority of people experiencing a mid-life crisis all seem to read from the same 'script.' - i.e. "Projecting blame, want/need to escape, ILYBINILWY, and the list goes on... If that's true, and it does seem to be an eerily accurate portrayal of my MLC wife, I guess I just wondered where's the Almanac that shows me how to predictably/successfully navigate my marriage back to calm waters.
For example, I can look at an Almanac and tell with relative accuracy when the next full moon is going to happen. Some of things an MLC spouse says and does often seem more predictable than the moon's cycle. Sometimes the things they say and do are more predictable than gravity even! Soooo, again, where's the flip side? Isn't there some MLC physics book somewhere that teaches you, "Hey, when you see a tree falling in the forest (i.e. your MLC spouse is going nuts), you get out of it's path [to save yourself and your marriage]." I know none of us here would just sit and wait patiently until the tree finishes falling to see if it actually hits us or not.
I'm just venting and thinking out loud. Nothing personal to anyone here...
Soooo, again, where's the flip side? Isn't there some MLC physics book somewhere that teaches you, "Hey, when you see a tree falling in the forest (i.e. your MLC spouse is going nuts), you get out of it's path [to save yourself and your marriage]." I know none of us here would just sit and wait patiently until the tree finishes falling to see if it actually hits us or not.
