The problem I have with this, Sandi, is that nobody is perfect, no marriage is perfect, and part of being emotionally mature is knowing this and that having a better marriage requires both partners to be working on it, and the WAS is responsible for the state of the M too usually, and that resentment is partly the result of disillusionment founded on a misplaced sense of entitlement and unreasonable expectations.

If an imperfect marriage is an excuse for an affair, then all married people have an excuse to have them.

I know your heart is in the right place: to get them to see their WAS with a little empathy, so I'll cut you some slack here based on my understanding of the context of the situation where you posted this.

For the record, I agree that there is a point in all of these tales (after exposure and protection) where the focus needs to shift to empathy.

Last edited by TimeHeals; 09/14/10 12:20 PM.
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