You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[awest1217]

I am with Drew. Is D8 getting any consequences for her actions? She is now in 3rd grade. The teacher has everything online so you can check it everyday if you want as a parent. If there is something missing (unless the teacher is slow updating), you can find out right away. If it is that the teacher is slow updating, asking that it is updated sooner is ok, but otherwise this is on D8.

Yes as parents you should check on her because she is still a child, but she needs to start at some point to take responsibility. She needs to learn to do what is asked of her without having to be told all the time. What are the two of you going to do in order to show D8 that this is unacceptable and she needs to do her work. Maybe D8 is not bringing the stuff home so even if you did check it wouldn't be there. Does she have an agenda? If she does, one thing is to have the teacher initial it everyday that she has all her homework written in it, and you also have to initial it. Good communication on both parts because it shows that she has communicated what needs to be done, and you have communicated that you have seen what needs to be done each night and that it has gotten done.

It is up to you the consequence for D8, but at some point she has to learn that it isn't her parents' or teacher's fault for her not doing her work. There has to be some consequence.