annie, sorry you are here, it is a good place to be under the circumstances...
NO, DO NOT give him the DR book. I cant recall anyone having a good response by sharing books/articles etc. You would also be giving him inside information about your "goals"...
Retrouvaile I think needs both people to go with open mind and heart. Your H sounds like he is in the middle of the "fog",detached and "feels" determined. These of course do change and that is what you want happening but right now..., I dont know. Check out a thread on piecing regarding Retro.
Regarding your third "issue"... Well, I've struggled with that a lot, most of us do. You are afraid. My H seemed depressed. Lost weight, was not himself, had no life in him for months. I thought it was work, the kids etc etc. When I started pushing, MONTHS later, I came across a woman's name that he disregarded as just an girl from work and I believed him... (remember this).
He convinced our closest friends, his father, sister, relatives, anyone that aproached him there was NO other woman. I was watching my H SLIPPING AWAY convinced he was depressed (his mom death etc ect seemed good enough reasons).
Long story short: he had a passionate love affair for years (2,5). I was a fool. I dont buy the depression that easily. Men dont leave their families without having another woman waiting. Make sure you know the whole truth.
I dont have time to post much right now. I will try to follow your story.Dont be afraid. Fear is a bad advisor. Nothing "worse" can happen if you think about it. You'll be fine. K
