Hey Hopeful, just read through your sitch. It is amazing to me that you have done so well. You only have 4 pages of posts and I have been here a shorter time and have 3 separate threads with probably 100 pages between them. Sounds like you were able to get to a healthy point rather quickly. I am envious of all your "friends".
As far as how to proceed, accept some invitations, but not others, especially at first. You are too busy with your own life to accept them all. You have things to do. If you jump right back in, she will get cold feet again. I don't know this from experience, just from reading the DR book and watching other people's situations. Continue to have your own life until you are ABSOLUTELY SURE she is committed to reconciling.
Others will have better and more thoughtful advice for you, so stay tuned. Just don't move too fast with her.
My W filed in June and we just got separated 9/1. The amount of support I am paying her is ridiculous and enables her to do whatever she wants pretty much. I haven't talked with her about anything but the kids or splitting our stuff for the last 2 weeks. Need to start finding some dates to improve my outlook. Hope I am as successful as you were!!
Be coy. Be catnip. Make her pursue you. Don't pursue her at all for now.
