Rise above the vindictiveness. My WAH and I had our second mediation for our D today.He was very NASTY and very VINDICTIVE. I was not. Enough said. However, I will get from H what I need and deserve to live on.
You need to check with your L how you put your WAW through school, it may matter to your D.
Keep your pride and let things take the course they need to take, but always PROTECT yourself. Keep emotion out of it. You must stay calm.
Hang in there. Sorry things turned out as they did for you.