Let me step back a bit, yes it is one day at a time. I do miss the "good" interactions with my W, but I cant remember the last time I had them. While saying this, I have seen my W be funny and joyful here and there since the bomb, but instead of telling myself she is still the woman I married, I tell myself she is up to something. What I am saying is dont let your feelings control how you look at things. When you start to see that your "family" cannot be back together right now in its current chaos, you will start to feel that rushing your hope is not the answer.
It is easy to be on the outside of anyone's situation and tell them what they are doing wrong, that is why I post that you should read over what you have posted, what you have done and what the outcome has been.
On my post you said I answered my own question? I read it a few times, and I dont agree. Our W's are similar in their manipulative ways, the difference is I have not fallen for it lately, I stick to my guns. Let me quote something my pastor said in his last service:
"keep doing what you know to do, even when doing what you know to do doesn't seem to be getting any results"
This statement from my pastor, was a 2x4 in my opinion. My feelings are telling me to be more loving, but I have done that and the manipulation train comes in at 100 mph. So what I know to do, is not cave into her BS anymore. So that is why I am doing what I am doing, it doesnt get the results I expect as far as my M, but this is a long journey, you cant win every battle in a war, but that doesnt mean you cant win the war.
