The final stages...withdrawal to acceptance

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Hi Wonka-
Thanks so much for sharing your experience. Each MLC experience is unique but it is so helpful for the LBS to get as much information as possible from the MLCer perspective.

My fog really thickened from the bomb dropping (May 2003) until it cleared out sometime around March 2004.

How long do you think it was you before you entered acceptance?

It was during this stage that I was alternatively nasty and gentle with my XW. It was a lot like Jekyell/Hyde. It was not conscious at all.

Did ever find yourself telling your wife something that you sincerely meant and then acted to the contrary? I am trying to understand my H telling me last week that he wants to be a part of my life but then he doesn't contact me.

At a subconscious level, I came to terms with my parents' divorce at aged 11. It was never verbalized.

Were you aware that this was one of your issues and did you have others? Did your issue(s) just resolve themselves or did you have to work through it (them)?