In regard to my W and the "thank you". I am quelling my excitement. I realize that this is a baby step...but a step none the less. I do take it as a positive. She could have said nothing or worse "please leave me alone". But she chose to say Thank you.
I am working on my GAL and detaching, but I don't think that it is wrong for me to open up lines of communication. I did it confidently and with humor...all attractive traits. I didn't manipulate her in responding it was her choice. I plan to stay dark for a while then bring up the commercial about where she works.
NCU, I have read MWD and based on what she advises you have to try different tactics and then take stock in how your spouse reacted. If going dark draws her in then great! If not then I will try another approach. I didn't reply back to my W's thank you. The last time she thanked me I overreacted with 3 or 4 emails.
I am glad to sat your H down and had acknowledge his share of responsibility. Show him confidence and courage, don't give into him!!!
