Thanks all for taking the time to post. Goodfight - are you kidding is right / Cadet always tells newbies to believe nothing that they say and 50% of what they do. It sounds as if you need to keep detaching. As hard as it is for me to be away from the man I have loved forever - being around him now is too painful and is really not reflective of who he truly is. I keep re-reading Hearts Blessings stages of MLC. I have just checked out all together. He is responsible for his relationship with the kids. We are not co-parenting. He has reduced his contact with the kids to some texting - it's just not him.
I hope we all can keep moving forward - we deserve to be happy!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time