I don't know that's what was meant. I've read lots of threads on here by the LBS, and what ends up happening a lot of the time is the LBS is motivated to make big changes at first to get out of their depression and "win" back favor with the WAS - usually after a S. The WAS just stagnates and doesn't make many changes. Before long, the LBS, if they are good, has detached and made themselves a better person. The WAS has only detached.
Then the WAS flounders on whether to file or not. Commits to it, then changes their mind silently. The WAS keeps saying to themselves, "My LBS sure has made a lot of changes, they seem happy, they seem like a good person now. I wonder if..." and they come and go in and out of that mentality.
Then one day the LBS decides they have moved on in every part of their life except with their WAS. Then, the LBS becomes the WAS.
That makes amazing sense and offers quite a bit to think about.
Me: 24 H: 26 2 SS: 7 & 5; D: 3 H filed D papers: 8/2/10 OW discovered: 08/10 D papers counter-filed: 10/2/10 There is no method to my madness
