Awest thank you for your kind words... I do feel like he is being a bully as he has in the past. It just never got this far along in the process. I'm not sure the 90 days will start over but it will take some time to move things forward, to make a d final. Kind of like after he filed he did have doubts, calmed down some and then came home and we were working towards getting him help.
I was hoping if things got pushed out to the future then he might reconsider that our m is not the cause of his bad feeling in life. But then again trying to change and control him goes against db. I am still very torn with everything. I am really considering sending an email to his mom to get her opinion. She was very happy when he came home and we had briefly talked about him being depressed. I had told her that I was working on it with him. Which was true. I was trying to not push him.
M 35, husband 35 M 10 Limbo 9/2009-12/2010 he left for his moms and came home way to many times to count Home 12/2010-present