OT: I am not upset by your post at all. I think your advice about the letter to Chuck is good. I did not plan to let him know until close to the time. Just as I don't intend to let Ryan's caregivers know either until about 6 weeks ahead. Knowing how it goes - they would all quit and I can't have that. I have already started to arrange a care plan in cottagetown.
As for Chuck - I agree with a lot of what you said. I do not want the kids burdened with guilt or regret. I did tell them some of what you said - about me actually wanting them to do what was right but my son is very very angry still. I really think he should talk to someone other than me about this. I stopped talking to Ashley about her R with her dad a long time ago. She often tells me things but I never ask.
Good advice all around, OT. Thanks for your thoughts.
