I just can't take it anymore

[james217]

have a new relationship with an amazing woman. I've never been happier. ILl add more to my thread later.

There is light at the end of the tunnel with the same person or someone else.

Amazing how problems just disappear and all is well when the LBS finds someone else... Suddenly life is all good again..


The best remedy is find someone who DOES love you back..

There was more than likely nothing wrong with you in the beginning. You just think there is and think that getting the WS back is the rememdy... NOT

Then you will be saying the same things James is saying.. Life is good.

the problems didn't begin to disappear until I admitted my own shortcomings and accepted them and then worked on them.

Self reflection was the key to everything. I had to swallow my pride and focus on me. Work on what I knew I had issues/problems etc etc with.

Then try to turn those into strengths making me a stronger person ready to get involved in another relationship with no baggage being brought it.

Then by using my "job application dating approach" I knew what I wanted in a potential future mate based upon my strengths and weaknesses and what she would be able to offer to enhance my weaknesses and strengths and vice versa.

I didn't go for someone who was too similar to me. I chose someone who had similarities but differences so we wouldn't get stuck in a rut and the R BECOME STAGNANT because neither one brings something new to the table.

On one of my dates. She came and picked me up and took me out on a picnic. She had blankets and a lunch packed.

It began to rain slightly . I started putting everything up and she said what are you doing sweety ILl brb. Then she went to her trunk and pulled out a beach umbrella and set it up and we continued to talk and have our picnic in the rain with drops just falling all around us.

She told me that nothing was going to ruin our picnic and she was prepared for the rain.

I knew right then and there she was special. She didn't let a potential bad situation affect us. She weathered the storm with me and we had a great time. I was in awe.

It feels good to have osmeone who listens to you. Who works as a teammate with you instead of against you. It's not perfect but from learning how to truly db i have 180ed alot of things that I did wrong with EX.

It was the same with her. She's never been married. She said look we both been in bad relationships. So we both know what love isn't. So lets do the opposite of what love isn't and teach each other what true love is.