I think it's OK to let go

[TimeHeals]

So during this 6 week NC you only focued on GAL and detaching and did not work a communication counter insurgency (a little spy joke). So how different are you now than you were when your sitch began?

When the situation began (October 2009), I was angry, I insisted that "we work on things", I begged, I reasoned, then I was just angry and sad. For a while (oct-dec) I drank too much.

Philip Zimbardo helped me learn how to focus my perspective, and Cary Grant is still teaching me how to be more playful and provocative (re flirt) while still having some "class".

Here's a secret: my FSTBXW (formerly STBXW) is a magical person in so many ways, and I learned how to say it and be playful and charming about it.